“Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

This quote by our former first lady is right on. So many times people tell me they’ve been told “You’re not good enough.” or “They are better at this than you are.” or “They told me this would never work for me.”. Have you ever had someone say this to you or overheard someone say it to another person?

Here’s an example:

You know what always happens when you start a new business. You always have tons of energy. Then, at some point, you lose your focus and your drive. The business fails because you start looking for the next better opportunity.

You or the person this comment was directed at were being programmed by the person talking to them. Any time someone uses the word “you”, your mind views it as programming your brain. Many times this is unintentional as it is the way many people speak when making generalized statements. Other times it may be the entire purpose.

What you want to be aware of is when you hear the word ‘you’ being said by someone speaking to you, think if this applies to you specifically. If it does and you are OK with what is being said, then allow it into your mind. If what is being said is not something you want embedded as part of your mindset, make sure to deflect this statement.

Why do I offer this as the action step? Your mind is a computer. It takes in all information and applies it. This means unless you decide whether the information is something you want to have as part of your mindset, it is used like you have consented to its use just like a computer program does with the information entered into it.

How do you stop the programming which is ineffective to you? One of the actions I take is simple. When I’m listening to someone talk and they say the word ‘you’ which is a programming word, I say in my head, “They mean them.”. This keeps the statement from being internalized and used by your mind.

This reframe is the perfect way to control what your mind is being programmed with throughout your day. It means you will have to consent to any thought being true before it affects you. This means you now decide what your mind uses and what is throws away as garbage.

Powerful, right. One more way to help you create the life of your dreams!