My kid can do it; Most elderly adults can do it; In emergencies we all do it;  And yet how come most find this to be one of the scariest things to do?  I am referring to talking to random strangers!  Here are three easy steps anyone can do to easily start a conversation with someone new.

Step 1: Excel In The Art Of Conversation:

The first thing you need to do is work on your conversation skills. Can you hold up a decent dialogue with your friends and family? If you aren’t able to do that then you need a little more practice before you start initiating a conversation with a complete stranger.  (If you are a real estate investor, reach out to me about our newest program, Practice for Profits http://paulfinck.com/practice-4-profits where you get the practice you are now looking for.)

Learn to relax so you won’t accidentally blurt out something inappropriate in panic. Get comfortable voicing out your thoughts and expressing yourself.  Practice, practice, practice.  Place yourself in as many different positions and situations to do just that.

Once you’ve gotten used to talking to the people you already know, that’s when you go out and explore the various ways to talk to random strangers.

Step 2: Start Small:

If your target is that beautiful girl over at your local bar, I suggest you practice with the small fry first.  Make small talk with sales attendants as you shop.  If it’s a slow day at your favorite coffee shop, maybe you can initiate small talk with the barista.

If you don’t feel ready to initiate whole conversations, you can simply smile and greet the people whom you see everyday.  The building personnel, your landlord, the local librarian and other people you meet make for good training. They’ll help you build your confidence, as well as train you into making it a habit.

Step 3: Be Open And Friendly:

As you speak to random strangers they may be suspicious of your intentions. That’s something you aren’t able to control. What you can control though, is the way you approach them.

Be respectful of personal space and keep things light and friendly.  If you’re a beginner, a good suggestion is to limit  the conversation to only a few minutes.  If the person does not show signs of wanting to talk any longer, then end the conversation on a light note and go off to do your own thing.

Learning how to talk to random strangers is a powerful trait. Once mastered it will open up new opportunities to you.  Stay the course and put in the efforts and the rewards will be great.